I for one am glad you managed to write the substack. Even without all of the shit you've gone through the last several years this is a heavy, dark time, fraught with hatred and the betrayal of everything right or true. How fucked it is!
But here we are, drabbling on for our last years. I'm glad you wrote, and I hope those drops of gas keep dripping - we need you.
I was afraid that you had too much perfection in your life and that was why we had heard too much from you lately. I am glad to know that you were reassessing and reorienting yourself. I have my head in the sand and have read all of Ann Cleeve's books, all of Elly Griffith, and several other British crime series. I'm not sure I can deal with HOA and self-appointed Queen Bees. I wait to here how you put her in her place. We know rudeness doesn't pay here. All we can do is keep going. Love.
Wow Marjie, you put me in the mind of a dry dock, putting up bruised snd weary ships and letting them rest and rebuild, then reseting them in ocean's waters. You are a strong soul. May your tide rise.
Hooboy!! Mere mortals like myself would have just melted away after one or two if those incidents. Just looking after my mum while she was in a nursing home had me vegetative for a couple of months, and that's just ONE thing I did. Just one.
My 89 year old Dad often complains, "I haven't got anything done today!" And I have to say that maybe that's OK, maybe you're allowed to not do much. To help I just sent him a card for his 89th birthday with a picture of a stroller containing cats in it and the words: If you worry you're not doing enough remember there are people in this world who push strollers with cats around. Or something to that effect. I'm not being mean to people who do this, I think it's lovely to take your elderly cats out, even better to take your elderly dogs out, I'm just sharing the you-dont-have-to-do-too-much sentiment.
My personal philosophy, when feeling slack, which is rare, is that I must do ONE thing a day. Just one. It's very freeing but then I am an extraordinary introvert who would happily lie on the couch all day reading and cuddling up to the dogs and not feel guilty about it.
I encourage you to let it be....let it take as long as it takes to fill the tank again.
If you need book recommendations to get you through I'm always relying on John Sandford to take me out of my mind (love that f*"king Flowers). If you like sci fi the Expanse series had me actually living in space in an actual spaceship, or some weird planet, until I had to eat or go to the loo in real life, which was always a shock. I'm not into recommending "good" literature. I'm into escapism. And I don't apologise. Just reading An Illumined Thread, though. That one's rather good. Follows 3 women in 400BC somewhere, 1400 (?) Florence, and 2018 Adelaide...all connected through their artisanry. Makes me aware how woeful my history knowledge is.
Finally, before they kick me off Substack for being too long-winded: I feel your pain for the "governing" that's happening now. Since you introduced me to Substack I'm following all sorts of people and sometimes the rage I feel is hard to contain. And everyday there is more to rage about. I can't imagine how it feels to be living it.
Thanks for writing and sharing, I'm still eagerly awaiting your memoir. Happy buffering, at least when you get back to writing youve got another great character, Sharon, along with your Building Inspector to torture.
I am unbelievably grateful to be part of this wonderful family that you have painstakingly brought back from the brink of disaster on too many occasions. Watching and learning from you is something I’ll never tire of. ❤️
I do hope the most drama we see for a while is whatever you’re currently watching on YouTube.
I too “learned the art of waiting… Waiting is as stupid as I thought it would be, but here we are.” But as long as a dog is sleeping peacefully by your side, it ain’t all bad. Honestly, I was exhausted just reading the recitation of things you tackled and accomplished over the last few years. Emotionally exhausted. Physically exhausted. And that was your default setting for your whole darn life.
Glad you have Vera to keep you company - a kindred spirit. (Me, I tucked up with 14 seasons of ER - all but one of which were as satisfying as I remembered. And the varied cast fed my schizophrenic brain.) You’re riding hell for leather thru this even if it feels like crawling.
i’m with you on footnote #2-there’s a sort of permission or freedom I give myself now about this money thing. You’re been in endurance mode- the next-thing-on-the-list for so long it’s amazing you’re even semi-functioning. Hope your day without an agenda is restorative.
Been there. It is amazing how many people are murdered in Great Britain.
Right?? How is anyone left?
THAT is the real mystery.
LOL.
So good to hear from you today in spite of your nearly gasless state. Please, get strong. Be strong.
Reading your posts helps me. I hope writing them helps you.
It does- and thank you!
I for one am glad you managed to write the substack. Even without all of the shit you've gone through the last several years this is a heavy, dark time, fraught with hatred and the betrayal of everything right or true. How fucked it is!
But here we are, drabbling on for our last years. I'm glad you wrote, and I hope those drops of gas keep dripping - we need you.
Right back at you, pal.
I was afraid that you had too much perfection in your life and that was why we had heard too much from you lately. I am glad to know that you were reassessing and reorienting yourself. I have my head in the sand and have read all of Ann Cleeve's books, all of Elly Griffith, and several other British crime series. I'm not sure I can deal with HOA and self-appointed Queen Bees. I wait to here how you put her in her place. We know rudeness doesn't pay here. All we can do is keep going. Love.
Yes, vengeance is restorative I think! Thank you.
This was painful to read, Marjie, but I'm so glad you wrote it with such honesty and fearlessness. That's why we love you.
The love is mutual, truly.
😘😘🩵💚
Wow Marjie, you put me in the mind of a dry dock, putting up bruised snd weary ships and letting them rest and rebuild, then reseting them in ocean's waters. You are a strong soul. May your tide rise.
Thank you. Yes, that's exactly the feeling.
nice to see this in my in box
Thanks.
Hooboy!! Mere mortals like myself would have just melted away after one or two if those incidents. Just looking after my mum while she was in a nursing home had me vegetative for a couple of months, and that's just ONE thing I did. Just one.
My 89 year old Dad often complains, "I haven't got anything done today!" And I have to say that maybe that's OK, maybe you're allowed to not do much. To help I just sent him a card for his 89th birthday with a picture of a stroller containing cats in it and the words: If you worry you're not doing enough remember there are people in this world who push strollers with cats around. Or something to that effect. I'm not being mean to people who do this, I think it's lovely to take your elderly cats out, even better to take your elderly dogs out, I'm just sharing the you-dont-have-to-do-too-much sentiment.
My personal philosophy, when feeling slack, which is rare, is that I must do ONE thing a day. Just one. It's very freeing but then I am an extraordinary introvert who would happily lie on the couch all day reading and cuddling up to the dogs and not feel guilty about it.
I encourage you to let it be....let it take as long as it takes to fill the tank again.
If you need book recommendations to get you through I'm always relying on John Sandford to take me out of my mind (love that f*"king Flowers). If you like sci fi the Expanse series had me actually living in space in an actual spaceship, or some weird planet, until I had to eat or go to the loo in real life, which was always a shock. I'm not into recommending "good" literature. I'm into escapism. And I don't apologise. Just reading An Illumined Thread, though. That one's rather good. Follows 3 women in 400BC somewhere, 1400 (?) Florence, and 2018 Adelaide...all connected through their artisanry. Makes me aware how woeful my history knowledge is.
Finally, before they kick me off Substack for being too long-winded: I feel your pain for the "governing" that's happening now. Since you introduced me to Substack I'm following all sorts of people and sometimes the rage I feel is hard to contain. And everyday there is more to rage about. I can't imagine how it feels to be living it.
Thanks for writing and sharing, I'm still eagerly awaiting your memoir. Happy buffering, at least when you get back to writing youve got another great character, Sharon, along with your Building Inspector to torture.
You are brilliant. Yes. Now I have TWO People to kill repeatedly!
I am unbelievably grateful to be part of this wonderful family that you have painstakingly brought back from the brink of disaster on too many occasions. Watching and learning from you is something I’ll never tire of. ❤️
I do hope the most drama we see for a while is whatever you’re currently watching on YouTube.
You've got to admit, it's high drama!
I too “learned the art of waiting… Waiting is as stupid as I thought it would be, but here we are.” But as long as a dog is sleeping peacefully by your side, it ain’t all bad. Honestly, I was exhausted just reading the recitation of things you tackled and accomplished over the last few years. Emotionally exhausted. Physically exhausted. And that was your default setting for your whole darn life.
Glad you have Vera to keep you company - a kindred spirit. (Me, I tucked up with 14 seasons of ER - all but one of which were as satisfying as I remembered. And the varied cast fed my schizophrenic brain.) You’re riding hell for leather thru this even if it feels like crawling.
ER is a brilliant choice! Thanks.
i’m with you on footnote #2-there’s a sort of permission or freedom I give myself now about this money thing. You’re been in endurance mode- the next-thing-on-the-list for so long it’s amazing you’re even semi-functioning. Hope your day without an agenda is restorative.
God DAMN this is taking a long time to restore! Thanks.